Breakup & Mediation

We are committed to helping separated couples heal their conflict and move forwards with better separations.

Discernment Counselling for Couples

We provide several types of support for couples thinking of breaking up or for individuals who have already broken up. When a couple is in crisis about their future together, Discernment Counselling helps with gaining clarity.

Discernment counselling helps when one or both of you are considering separating. Sometimes during a relationship, especially when in crisis, a couple may think they want to separate, however they are not totally sure if this is the right choice. For some couples at this time of crisis, one member of the couple feels that they may want to leave the marriage and they come for discernment counselling to determine what the best way forward is.

Post Separation Therapy for Individuals

Our therapists understand the depth of loss, grief and anger that comes with separation. This kind of loss is often invalidated by (well-meaning) people around you, sometimes you just need to speak with someone who is skilled and trained in this area and who can help you work on a way forward.

Separation and divorce as an outcome in marriage was historically quite rare. It is only in the past 20 or 30 years that married couples have felt relatively free to separate if they were making each other miserable. It can be enormously helpful to have a therapist work with you to navigate the many changes and challenges you may face post-separation. Our therapists can work with you to find a new path and new emotional coping strategies for the life that you want to lead after your separation.

Post-Separated Relationship Counselling for Couples

Separating isn’t the end of your relationship. Post-separated relationships have different challenges. Unresolved issues between you as a couple can be exacerbated when you are trying to negotiate parenting or other issues after separation.

More and more couples approach our centre for help with healing their relationship issues and trying to find a better way to communicate and co-exist as a separated couple.

It is worth considering post-separated counselling when you want to preserve as much of the goodwill as you can from your relationship and work towards creating the best possible new version of your relationship. This can be especially beneficial where children are involved and where tensions and hurts are minimised to allow for a new more collaborative relationship to form in lieu of a conflicted one.

Mediation

When a relationship has ended amicably, dividing up your worldly goods or deciding on living arrangements for your children can be hard. When it hasn’t ended well, it can be a nightmare.

Even if you’re trying to be the better person, it can seem impossible to leave your feelings aside and negotiate with a partner who betrayed you or stopped loving you. If you’re the person who ended the relationship, you may be baffled as to why there has to be so much negative emotion involved. Often conflict takes off, and couples turn to the Court system to help adjudicate their important life decisions.

By avoiding the destructive Court process, you will be better placed to avoid long-term conflict with your ex-partner, and ready to move on with a more positive life sooner.

Mediation can be a conflict-resolving path to resolution that is designed to empower participants to make their own constructive and mutually agreeable choices.

The help and support of an experienced mediator can help you avoid the enormous stress of battling it out in Court.